Resistance: The Love Edition

My three major obsessions (aside from my kids, duh!) are time, energy, + presence. This month—especially with Valentine's Day upon us—I want to talk about what loving yourself actually looks like. As a Certified Lover Girl, I know it starts here.

The Big Three

·      Time—the parts we control + the parts that simply are (365 days, 24 hours, no negotiations).

·      Energy—what drains us versus what fuels us. (Energy vampires, we see you.)

·      Presence—being HERE, in THIS moment instead of depressed about the past or anxious about the future.

These aren't just concepts—they're the foundation of everything I do as a Speaker, Facilitator, + Certified Coach. And they're the foundation of self-love.

It Ain't My Fault…Did I Do That? (IYKYK 😂)

Our society is designed to make being a time-managing, energy-thriving, present human damn near impossible. We're always chasing the next thing, living in our heads about what's coming or ruminating about the past. But when we harness time, energy, + presence? That's self-love in action. That's boundaries. That's hard conversations. That's inner work. And self-love is resistance. ✊🏾

Broke A$$ System!

I started hosting Democracy Hour Fridays (shout out to Tara Mohr for the inspo). It's an intentional space on our calendars to show up + show love to ourselves, our community, + our country through donations, calls, + emails to our representatives.

I thought it'd be quiet—cameras off, civic duty done, playlist ready. I was wrong. Some people popped in for 5-15 minutes, others stayed the full hour. And the conversations? Magnifique! We talked about what it looks like to resist a system while still being part of it.

We're trying to thrive in a system that shares zero values with us. Zero goal alignment. Which leaves us drained. On a hamster wheel. Country? Organization? I can't even tell the difference anymore. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I'm realizing something deeper: I can combat capitalism by simply not living by capitalistic standards. I don't need a bigger house with rooms I haven't entered in months. I don't need the fanciest car (though, real talk, I've been vexed for a G-Wagon since 16 after watching Clueless). I don't need my own library of books when actual libraries (+ reading friends) exist. I don't need closets of clothes when really, there are only about 20 (ok maybe 30) pieces I'm actually obsessed with.

My cousin said it best during our Democracy Hour: "What good is a system that nobody uses?"

When I'm not over-consuming, I get to live my values:

·      Buying the ONE shirt I'm obsessed with instead of all the shirts.

·      Surprising the kids with a midweek ice cream trip.

·      Donating to a non-profit I actually love.

·      Loaning my little cousin money because I remember my 20s in a better economy + wouldn't wish this one on anyone.

·      Planning for our futures by investing

The Love Connection

Resistance is love. It's love of self. It's protecting our time + energy so we have the capacity to do the things that actually fuel us.

What we prioritize = what we make time for.
What we make time for = what we invest energy in.
What we invest energy in = what sustains us (or drains us 🫠)

Love is  action. Are we saying we love things with zero action behind it? Is our definition of love part of the root problem? 👀

What would change if you started making intentional choices about what gets your time, energy, + presence? Are you willing to let go of something (or someone) to make room for what truly aligns with where you want to be?

Your Turn

Write it down. Sit with it. MAKE TIME FOR IT DAMN IT!

And if you want to share what you're realizing, hit me up via email or DM on Instagram. This conversation is for all of us.